Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star...How I Wonder What You Are...Up Above The World So High...Like A Diamond In The Sky...Buffy Lee 1984-1995

Something To Think About.........

Unfortunately, Buffy's story does not end here. I have decided to share this last part to raise your awareness of how you need to verify and clarify specifically to Dr's and staff your intentions.
When Buffy passed, it was late Saturday afternoon. it was very obvious that he had passed.
We weren't quite sure what to do with his body.(Like I have said, I was very unprepared) We could have put him in our yard, but we had only lived in this house for one year. It wasn't "home" to him. And if we weren't going to stay in this house, I wouldn't want to leave him there. I thought about my parents yard, he felt very comfortible there. But they are older and I didn't
know how long they would remain there either. We wondered, did it matter? Is it important? In our city, we have an emergency clinic that is open the off hours of the vets. So when I called, they
explained the other alternative is cremation. They use the same service my vet does. She also explained about private or group cremation. We ended up taking Buffy there. They confirmed that he had passed. I still wasn't sure what to do with his body. They told me pick up would be 3 days later so I had time to give it thought. I paid for group cremation and signed the papers. That same Saturday night, I thought and searched my soul. By Sunday morning, consumed by grief and faced with reality, I decided that Buffy would only be at peace being with me. So I went back to the clinic, paid the difference and signed more papers. I cried my eyes out all the way home. My baby....
Monday morning I called my vet to tell them what happened and to verify the service. Tuesday I called the emergency clinic to see if he was picked up. Yes, they told me. I would receive his cremains in 2 weeks. The grief was unbearable. I could not wait to bring him back home. I counted the days and the hours. By Thursday of the next week, we received a check in the mail from the clinic. It was not for the total amount. What did this mean? Friday night I called to find out what was going on. Whoever answered the phone said she would find out and call me back. The phone never rang until Saturday afternoon. It was the director of the clinic. He quickly said he was sorry to inform me that there had been 2 Buffys at the clinic and they had been mismarked. I would not be receiving my Buffy's remains. I cannot describe the range of emotions that ran thru' me then. I was so mad and upset.(that's a nice version) Actually I
was irrate. If felt as if I had lost him for a second time. IF ONLY they had used his last name along with his first, there would not have been a mix up.
Was that too much to ask? There was nothing they could do. There was nothing I could do.
How could I ever rectify this situation??????
One stupid, negligent action cost me big.

10 Things You Should Know About Grieving

1. Grief is a normal healing process when we experience loss of major life changes. Allow yourself to be normal. Allow yourself to grieve.
2. The emotional pain you are feeling is because your psyche and spirit are adjusting to your loss and all the implications of that loss. Pain is a normal part of grieving.
3. Your body is also affected by your loss. You will likely have physical symptoms of grieving, such as digestive upsets, changes in your sleep pattern, appetite changes, headaches and increased susceptibilty to infections.
4. Your energy level will be affected for a long time. You will likely find that you have only enough energy for necessary things and no creative or life enjoyment energy for at least several months. This is normal. You are not ill. Be patient with yourself.
5. You likely feel as if your brain is wrapped in cotton batting. This is normal and will improve soon. Gradually, as your energy level improves, your cognitive abilities will return to their normal sharpness. In the meantime, avoid making major decisions.
6. Crying takes the pressure off. Just as a floodgate can save a dam, your tear ducts can allow healing tears to help you get through this time. Don't try to prevent yourself from crying.
7. Telling the story over and over again, to a friend who will listen, a support group or a counselor, may be the most healing thing you can do.
8. Exercise is very important right now. Take a walk or some other exercise for at least 1/2 hour each day.
9. Many people like to write. Journal writing, letters to friends, letters to the deceased, even letters to yourself--these are all ways to support yourself.
10. Allow yourself as much time as it takes. The grief after a major loss can take several years. You will gradually feel better for longer stretches, but the waves of grief will still hit you for a long time. This is normal.
(Used with permission from Associated Catholic Cemeteries)

Twinkle, twinkle lucky star
Can you send me love from where you are?
Can you make a rainbow shine that far?
Twinkle, twinkle lucky star.....
(written by Merle Haggard)

"No wise man who ever lived could truly comfort the heart that has lost what it held most dear.
Most people have experienced the loss of a loved one. So they try, each in their own way, to make you feel that they understand how sad you are.
The world understands less the pain of losing an animal.
This is because many people have never felt for themselves the true love of an animal. So, you can not really expect these people to realize that your love for a pet may be greater than your love for the dearest people in your life.
The bond is different, and can never be put into words.
It is a bond that only The Heart understands."
(Author Martin Scot Kosins from Maya's First Rose)

Thank you, Terri, for allowing me the privilege of this
loving plaque. Please visit this absolutely warm
and loving tribute Portrait Of An Angel

If there are no dogs in heaven, then when I die, I want to go where they went....(author unknown)

He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be
yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart.
You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
(author unknown)

"When one by one our ties are torn, and friend from friend is snatch forlorn; when man is left alone to mourn, then how sweet it is to die"
Anna Letitia Barbauld

"The belief that those who have passed on are lost to us is one of the fears we can easily banish. Communication with the afterlife has nothing to do with ghosts, evil or anything negative. It is perfectly healthy, natural part of life. It should be appoached positively, with love and respect."
Linda Georgian

"She looked so different to me in that final moment. How afraid of death we all are~only because we don't really understand what it is. Yet, sometimes I feel I do understand a little. For it I did not exactly die that night, I know I was certainly not alive"
Martin Scot Kosins from Maya's First Rose

"Death, the last sleep? No, it is the final awakening"
Walter Scott

I have held many things in my hands, and I have lost them all; but whatever I have placed in God's hands, that I still possess."
Martin Luther

"To those who dream there is no such place as far away"
Anonymous

"Have faith in your dreams and someday
Your rainbow will come smiling through
No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
The dream that you wish will come true"
Cinderella

"Hope is the dream of waking man"
Diogenes

"Praising what is lost makes the rememberance dear"
Shakespeare

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched...
but are felt in the heart"
Helen Keller

"I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge,
That myth is more potent than history,
That dreams are more powerful than facts,
That hope always triumphs over experience,
That laughter is the only cure for grief,
And I believe that love is stronger than death"
~Robert Fulgham

"How does one become a butterfly?" she asked pensively.
"You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."
~Trina Paulus

"Death is simply a shedding of the physical body like the butterfly shedding its cocoon. It is a transition to a higher state of consciousness where you continue to perceive, to understand, to laugh, and to be able to grow"
~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.

"Death is not the end, it is simply walking out of the physical form and into the spirit realm,
which is our true home. It's going back home."
~Stephen Christopher

"When the earth shall claim your limbs,
then shall you truly dance."
~Kahlil Gibran

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Thank you Missy, for this very special rose.
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"...love knows not its own depth
until the hour of separation"
~Kahil Gibran

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Life Lessons1 ,
Heart Comfort and Soul Healing
Other Poetry
He Waits
A Letter To Yogie

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