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"Try to be fearless, because fear can inhibit you and keep you from a life." ~Miranda Weese (NYCB)
Classes are a place to learn. It is OK to make mistakes. Mistakes are expected. Even professional dancers make mistakes, they just cover them well. During class you will make mistakes, and you will have assistance correcting them. Accept this assistance. It is what you are paying a teacher for.
Do not compare yourself to anyone else. If you know one small thing more after class than you knew prior to it, you have gained knowledge. You will have days where you move forward and days where you move backward. You may even reach a plateau. All of this is fine and perfectly normal. Just do your best, and enjoy yourself. Fear of making mistakes can freeze up your mind and body. Instead attempt to relax and acknowledge your mistakes, and work at eliminating them. Enjoy finding them and attempting to remove them. Eventually there will be less of them. Like any sport there is always something to work on and improve. It is the same with the sport of dance.
To get over your fears you have to face them. Rise above them. No one expects you to know how to dance and do it correctly immediately. If it were not for mistakes there would be no dance teachers and we would all be out of a job. Be reasonable with yourself. Don't expect more of yourself than you would any other student of dance.
No one is born knowing how to do everything or anything perfectly. We all have to learn. Everyone has their own learning curve. Accept yours and go out and learn something new. Instead of staying in your comfort zone and loosing out on the enjoyment of dancing. See the benefits of dance list. What is there not to like about those benefits?
I am certain there is no class you have taken in your life where you did not have to learn something new. You just don't walk into the room and the knowledge is beamed into you. It doesn't work that way. It does not happen by osmosis. We would all be instant artists, stars, chemists, and engineers if it was that easy.
So if you have postponed learning to dance, make a deal with yourself today to go and give it a real try. You have little to loose and so very much to gain.
I recently had a lovely lady come to one of my dance parties. She told me "I made three goals for myself for the evening. 1. To get here (to the dance party), 2. To enjoy the music, 3. To go home." After being there about a half-hour she came over and said I have already accomplished my goals plus. "I danced with ... " She left at the end of the dance party and with a smile on her face. She said that she was going to sign for a beginning class as soon as one started. She came without knowing how to dance. She had made a deal with herself and she accomplished it. You can be that courageous also.
Move out of your comfort zone! Stretch your Zone. You and only you can get in control of your fear (they is caused by ego). That fear can keep you from moving out of your comfort zone, and missing many great things in life including Social Dancing. Tell your ego to be quite, when it talks to you. That little nagging voice in your head that predicts you'll fail or embarrass yourself.
Fear of failure or making a mistake is keeping you from trying to do something new and positive.
You will meet wonderful people in the social dance community. Maybe even find your significant other. Or make your significant other elated with joy, when you can dance with them.
You will find behind every comfort zone there are a few strong limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs that are restricting; you are convinced these beliefs are true. They are not true; I assure you.
Everyone can learn to dance. No one is without rhythm, no one I have meet yet has two left feet or two right feet for that matter. That is a myth, it is a limiting belief. Quite it and Persevere!
In class everyone is busy paying attention to their own footwork, they don't have time to watch you they are busy watching what I am teaching. If you desired their attention you'd be sorely disappointed. They are busy working on their dancing.
Be courageous and sign up for a class.
Miss Lori
"If you say you can you can, but if you say you can't your right!" ~anonymous
So, Say You Can!
Copyright 2007 Miss Lori
www.delightfuldance.com
DelightfulDance@aol.com
360-887-2141
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