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Stalking Tutorial

Credits

This tutorial is a joint project of the member groups of the Ribbons of Hope Campaign and the Knights of Kindness. When we started the Ribbons of Hope Campaign we said we were going to start by first helping missing children, second by helping abuse victims and third by empowering those who need help finding strength in the face of adversity. Today, we are doing a little of each, in hopes of building a better world for good people everywhere.

Today's tutorial is the work of a large number of people. I left their names off for their protection. They deserve the credit, they did 99% of the work and research. All I did was put their information into a usable format. My thanks to all the people who worked so hard to make this happen. And if you want to thank the people who wrote this, please don't write to us (Have you ever tried answering thousands of emails, lol). Instead, share this information with people all over the world, your friends, families and mailing lists, in hopes that if we helped you, now you can help someone else. We don't need thank you's. We just want to help good people to have a reason to smile in the world. If we see this letter going around the world, then we will know that someone somewhere believes that this letter, and our hard work, can make a difference in someone's life. And that's the only thanks we will ever need.

Huggs BaddTeddy,

The Knights of Kindness

And good people around the world who are working to build a better world as part of the Ribbons of Hope Campaign.

HOW TO PUT A STALKER IN JAIL

THE INTERNET IS FULL OF GOOD PEOPLE

Before talking to you about stalkers, I first want to tell you that the Internet is a good place. It is full of good people. Some of these good people even networking together to build a better world. Quite simply, some of the kindest people you will ever meet are on the Internet because here, those of us that are normally shy, feel more comfortable being ourselves. We open up and share things we would never have had the courage to share face to face. And that's a good thing, and I hope it stays that way.

HACKERS ARE NOT STALKERS

Many people are under the "false" impression that the words hackers and online stalkers mean the same thing. This is a false impression put out by the media, servers and government officials. So people get confused by the terms stalker and hacker. The difference is easy to see. Stalkers are people who have an intention to harm an innocent (good person) victim. Hackers on the other hand are simply people with a high level of computer skills that enable them to do things that most of us can't. While some hackers may be stalkers, I have actually found that most of the hackers on the Internet are actually good people trying to protect the innocent. They fight back against spammers, pedophiles, hate groups, corrupt government officials, etc. So remember, Stalkers are bad people. Hackers on the other hand can be good or bad and should not be labeled as stalkers. Why do I write this? Because lately I have been contacted by many hacker groups asking how they can help fight to protect the innocent, and while I decided not to become involved (I do things like this tutorial instead), I think that we as good people should not unfairly label people who cared enough to ask if they could help protect the innocent.

THERE ARE WOLVES IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING

Having thought about the Internet and the effects it would have for years before there even was an Internet, I realized that one of the key problems we would face would be wolves in sheep's clothing. People, who were essentially bad, pretending to be good.

Having dealt with the victims of abusers and stalkers for years before even going online, I knew online stalking would be a real problem, and that it would take a real solution to stop it. What you are about to read, how to put stalkers in jail, is a real solution.

This is the first of many such tutorials. Future tutorials will be done as much as possible with help from law enforcement officials and attorney general's offices across the country.

THERE ARE GOOD PEOPLE IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING

Online stalkers count on the fact that they can hide their identities (until now), or that they can do things in ways that can't be traced to them (or so they think), and that they can essentially go after anyone they want, without fear of retribution, because the victims are like sheep that run and hide rather than fighting back.

What the stalkers didn't know, is that while there are wolves in sheep's clothing, that some of these sheep weren't really sheep. That they were hunters. That these hunters have kept their identities secret, just as the wolves have. That quietly, one by one, they have been catching the wolves and putting them in cages (jail). That the hunters knew if they wanted to catch more wolves, they had to keep a low profile.

HOW DOES THIS RELATE TO THE INTERNET

I realized before the Internet ever came into being that stalkers (the less courageous ones), would flock to the Internet. That they would be looking for easy prey. That some of them would disguise themselves by using names designed to make you think they were good people. Innocent people. That they would change identities (names) frequently. Hide behind fake email accounts (Sheep's clothing), and harass the innocent (sheep).

So, being a hunter, I tried to figure out how we hunt wolves (stalkers). The first step is to hide the identities of the hunters (until today none of you knew that I was an electronic warfare officer in the military or that I have been working with anti-pedophile groups to learn how to hunt stalkers online), the fact that the hunters were working together (Many of the stalkers are going to be surprised to find out that the sheep have been recording their chats logs, IM logs, emails, etc., and networking this information with others to be handed over to law enforcement). And that the hunters had designed a new super breed of sheep. These sheep have teeth and teeth like Piranha (Imagine the expression on the stalker's face when they realize that every single one of their victims is reading this tutorial on how to put "them" in jail).

And being a hunter, and tipping my hand to the wolves today, I have to tell you that while I am going to give you a lot of good advice on how to hunt (put a stalker in jail), there are a lot of things I am not going to teach you because I realize there are a few wolves reading this. I want to educate you on how to catch a wolf, without teaching the wolves more tricks on how to mess with you.

WHY AM I WRITING THIS LIKE THIS?

Dealing with the issue of stalkers is very stressful for some people. As soon as the word stalker comes up, they get tense and afraid. And so their mind is so busy dealing with their fear, that they can't concentrate on "HOW TO CATCH A WOLF."

It is my hope, that by taking this approach, low key, that I reach those that need this advice the most. If you have felt like a sheep, or have a wolf hunting you, I want you to laugh and smile while we are installing your new teeth and teaching you how to take a bite out of crime.

HOW MANY WOLVES ARE THERE?

There are millions and millions of good people on the web and only a few wolves. However, good people rarely get talked about, while everyone in the village is going to talk about that one wolf. The gossip and rumors make it appear that there are a whole bunch of wolves when there are actually only a few.

By the way, please forgive me for calling you sheep. I only needed a word for this analogy and intended no offense. As a matter of fact, I kinda think I like the visual image (picture this) of a bunch of sheep having a meeting, telling jokes, using a chalk board to draw out plans just like a football team before the game, while they slip their new teeth in, all the time looking forward with anticipation to the time when the wolf (who thinks he's outsmarted them) tires to mosey down onto the field and blend in. I can see the sheep trying so hard not to start giggling as the wolf sneaks up on them.

I love thinking of it in terms like that. The stalker wants you to see the world one way. I want you to see it in another. The stalker wants you to run with fear, so he can attack your back side. Me, I want you and all your friends to plan this as though it was a game. A game where you never ever let the wolf know that you are a hunter, until it's too late for them. Until it's time to put the wolf in a cage.

So thinking of this as though it were a game, you are able to plan things, plan it with strategies, to at first try to think like a sheep (the traditional run, hide and hope the wolf gives up), think like the wolf (chasing sheep is fun, where can I find more) and then think like a hunter (where will the wolves be, and how do I get them in the cage).

Think of your strategies as though you planning moves in a game, but keep in mind that the consequences of the game can be very real. Be safe!

THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN

ONLINE STALKERS AND STALKERS OFFLINE

While to make this less stressful, I have written it in story form, almost as a game, I want to make one thing clear - STALKERS CAN BE VERY DANGEROUS! And there is no difference between online stalkers and offline stalkers. They are people who thrive on hurting and abusing others. They are disgusting slime that deserve to spend their lives in jail. My guess is that most of the online stalkers are people who do not have the courage to do this in real life and face to face. They gain their courage by the fact they can use the anonymity of the web. They are like bullies, except they do not have the courage to stand up and fight. And so, most of them, despite that they can pretend to be intimidating, are nothing but chickens hiding behind their computer screens.

The reasons for stalking are the same online as they are offline. The stalker has no life of their own. And so they crave harassing someone else for entertainment. To them this really is like a game.

But, online stalkers have long thought that they were different from real stalkers. That they were safe. That they could play "musical" chairs, hiding behind fake identities, to stalk the innocent. They thought that they could not go to jail. Well, I have news for them. Online stalking falls into the same legal category as offline stalking. There is no legal difference. It doesn't matter if they have never seen the victim. It doesn't matter if they live in different states. It doesn't matter that they believe that they can hide their identities through alternate servers. The truth is, the offline stalkers and online stalkers, have one thing in common. That as of a few years ago, stalking became a crime. And that the new laws state, stalkers can be put in jail for a "single" act of stalking. Even one harassing email, may be enough to put an online stalker in jail. So, online or offline stalkers are the same, they can both be put in jail. Stalking is a crime.

IF YOU WERE A WOLF

WHERE WOULD YOU GO TO CATCH A SHEEP?

One of the questions I asked myself, even before the Internet had come online, was that if there are going to be wolves, and the wolves are going to be hunting sheep, if I was a wolf where would I go to find "Unsuspecting sheep." The sheep that would be the least likely to fight back.

The answer came easy enough. Wolves, once they had been on the net for a while would look for large groups of sheep. They would then look for the groups of sheep that were doing "nice stuff." Wolves despise nice stuff. They would look for the biggest groups of sheep (mailing lists). They would look for sheep that had already been chased by other wolves (abuse groups), and sheep that were having difficulties in their lives (emotional support groups), and sheep that might be feeling a little on the weak side at the moment (Substance support groups).

And I again apologize for the analogy to sheep. But as you see, when you think of it in these terms, it's easy to spot how a stalker (wolf) would think.

HOW WOLVES DISGUISE THEMSELVES

Wolves can't simply walk out onto a field full of sheep. Nope, they would have to disguise themselves. They have to blend in.

MAILING LISTS AND GROUPS

In the case of a wolf going after large groups of innocent sheep, they often try to blend in using two separate disguises. The first disguise (primary) is as a friend who is leading a similar group of innocent little sheep, and the second disguise is as an unknown little sheep using multiple identities to attack BOTH groups of sheep, all the while under their primary disguise pretending they are helping to fight against the wolf.

In email terms this means that some stalkers are joining mailing lists, with the intention of harassing those lists. They use multiple identities. Their primary identity pretends to be friends with the people they are stalking, while their alternate identities (screen names) stalks and harasses members and leaders of the groups.

Most online editors sooner or later deal with a stalker who is harassing them. The normal thing has been to fight it out with the Internet provider to get the TOS removed. The ISP generally has refused to identify the identity of the person stalking the editor, and so the innocent person has been "guilty" without a trial. While most of the time, we can get these TOS's removed, it is a real hassle because despite we have copies of all the requests to join our lists, the ISP won't tell us who complained.

The good news is that many of the servers are now throwing off the person who is tossing the lists. They are starting to agree with the online editors associations that have presented the fact that, if you ask for something, you request it in writing, and you agreed that TOS rules do not apply, and you then TOS that list for sending what you requested, that this is a form of harassment. This good news means that the harassers are finally getting thrown offline.

However, there is a much simpler way to stop the stalker. A single act of stalking/harassment is now a crime in most states. If someone joins your mailing list, with the intention of trying to harass you by complaining to your server, this is considered HARASSMENT and STALKING. While you should contact your ISP, you should also contact your State Attorney General's office and they will assist you in contacting the brand new Computer Crimes Division in your state. They may actually be able to bring criminal stalking charges based on the fact that this person is intentional stalking you through your service provide. Oh yes, and the Computer Crimes Division can get the real identify of the stalker.

These laws apply to newsletter's that make "false" statements about innocent victims. Intentionally, sending out false information about someone to thousands of people with the intent to harass them, is legally considered stalking. If you are a victim of this kind of stalking, read this to learn how to put the stalker in jail.

One note, often a stalker will try to hide themselves by joining a group of good people, and using the image of that group as a shield to hide behind while they stalk others. This even happens to every online group, even groups like the Knights of Kindness. We have had several people join the Knights, as have other groups, who pretended to be nice, but used the group as a type of shield so that people would not believe "rumors" (the truth) that they were indeed stalkers. And so I want you to know that every group online is probably made up of 99 percent good people, and 1 percent stalkers. Judge people by their actions (remembering some of that may be a cover story to through people off), and not by what groups they may or may not belong too.

ABUSE AND SELF HELP GROUPS

Another plan a wolf might come up with, is to start out as an innocent little sheep that has been hurt and wounded by a wolf, to try to blend in with a flock of sheep that have been similarly hurt and wounded by wolves. To befriend the sheep one at a time. To hunt them down in one disguise (wolf) and to pretend in their other disguise (sheep) their are wolves chasing them, too.

Anyone using an analogy like the wolves would quickly realize that, if a stalker (basically an abuser) wanted to look for easy pickings that the best place to find them would be to join an abuse group. That the best way to blend in was to "pretend" to be an abuse victim. To be a friend to everyone using one screen name, while stalking them using fake screen names. The stalker would start out as a victim going to the group. They would go through the healing process and everyone would be happy for them. Eventually they would work their way to the levels of becoming an abuse counselor (what better way to get your intended victim to tell you their worst fears and private information), all the time stalking just a few of those that they were counseling. And the stalkers would eventually try to reach the pinnacle. To become the leader of an abuse group. What greater glory (in their minds) could a stalker have than becoming the leader of the group they are stalking. Once at the top, they could convince those under them that other people are stalkers and actually get good innocent people to start harassing innocent victims. This person, might even be able to get innocent victims who had come for their help, to commit suicide.

I want to state right now. Ninety-nine percent of the people online who are helping others are doing it for the right reasons. They do it because they care. However, we have found a few stalkers working in the emotional support groups and we will do everything in our power to put them in jail. And no, we are not giving out names, we cannot tip our hats. Just as we will not identify those who are stalking online editors etc... The first notification these people are going to get that they have been caught is when the police show up at the door and put the handcuffs on them. And I only wish I could see the expression on their faces when they wake up in jail, when their new room mate, (Bubba or Bertha) taps them on the shoulder and asks them to dance.

THE VICTIM DISGUISE

Another disguise wolves use is the victim disguise. This type of wolf looks for the weakest sheep it can find. Sheep that might even be suicidal. It is similar to the above types except that this wolf while pretending to be a victim, has no intention of ever becoming a leader. Just the opposite. They pretend to be a victim until the end. The wolf pretends to be a sheep in a lot of emotional pain. The wolf pretends to be the victim of stalkers. The wolf pretends to be ill. The wolf pretends to be grasping, barely hanging on. And finally, this wolf when they feel the time is just right, will fake their own death.

We have had several experiences with this type of stalker in the past. They join a group. They look for people who might feel sympathetic or even suicidal. They write letters that really reach into your heart. They want you to care about them. They want you to love them. They want you to cry when they fake their own death. There is one stalker that has faked her own death half a dozen times. Each time this stalker used another fake identity in the group to watch people's reactions when the stalker died. The biggest fear with this type of stalker, is that sometimes the victims of this type of stalking are suicidal. And that when they see their best friend in the whole world commit suicide, they may commit suicide themselves.

ALL OF THESE ARE CRIMINAL OFFENSES

All of these types of stalking are criminal offenses. They come into play under state anti-stalking laws, slander laws, harassment laws and in some cases attempted murder surrounding the idea of getting people to commit suicide. This tutorial is designed to educate you about stalkers, state and federal laws that pertain to stalking, and the process on how to put stalkers in jail.

REMEMBER MOST PEOPLE ARE GOOD

My biggest concern, even more than the stalkers themselves, is that you do not let this letter discourage you from seeking help, or from making friends. Ninety-nine percent of the people that I have met online are good, honest and caring. Do not be afraid to join a support group. Do not be afraid to get close to others. Do not be afraid to make friends. Remember there are good people. That if you become afraid to make friends, or seek help, that the stalkers have already won. Instead, I am simply saying that you should be educated about real life on the Internet so that you can make informed decisions on who you talk to, and about what.

ONE WAY TO IDENTIFY THE STALKER

Let's go back to the wolf analogy again. Let's say you are a wolf and you are wanting to stalk a sheep just for fun. Would you pick a sheep on the far side of the field, one that you would never talk to? A sheep that was so far away you could never see the fear in their eyes (stalkers love to see you show fear). Probably not, it simply wouldn't be much fun for the wolf. Instead the wolf would need to find a way to get close to their intended victim. So that they could find a way to watch.

What we have found is that stalkers, almost always stalk someone they know. This can be in-person (real life), an online friend, lover or a celebrity (the stalker feels they know the celebrity even though the celebrity doesn't know them). Stalkers simply do not enjoy stalking unless they get to see "the fear in the sheep's eyes."

For this reason, most online stalkers use multiple identities. One of these identities will stalk you. Another will pretend to be your best friend, or even a friend of a friend. When you get stalked, they want to hear about it.

What is the best way for a stalker to get you to open up and tell them to what the stalker is doing to you, and what you are doing about it? The answer, they pretend to be your best friend, and they pretend they are getting stalked, too. I am currently aware of over a dozen online stalkers, and in almost every case, the stalker, is pretending to be the victim of a stalker, too. The victim is getting stalked and wants advice. And so they turn to their supposed friend (the stalker) and tell them all about it. And the stalker tells them all the things their imaginary stalker is doing to them. It is a very close bond. The stalker is now the best friend of the victim.

So, if you are being stalked, you need to carefully consider anything anyone tells you about getting stalked themselves. Don't get me wrong, it is entirely possible they are telling the truth and you are both being stalked. But, at the same time, consider that the stalker may be hiding their identity by pretending to be a stalking victim.

STALKER IN THE NEWS

In one recent incident that was reported in the news, a woman was being stalked. She was telling a man that sat in the cubicle at work next to her at work all about it and he was advising her on how to fight back against the stalker. She was so grateful for his help that she fell in love with him, only to find out later that he was the stalker. He was using what she told him to avoid the police, she was exposing her worst fears to him, and he was exploiting those fears.

STORIES ABOUT STALKERS

Stop Net Abusers -- Resources -- In The News

Story: The Terrifying Truth About Online Stalking

VICTIM FIGHTS BACK

In another incident, a woman that is a friend of mine, was actually stalked by a police officer. She found that he had other victims. She organized them, and I am happy to report that he has been arrested and confessed. This was an example of how stalkers offline, just like online stalkers, sometimes try to get close to victims by taking on jobs or positions where they can easily find weak victims to stalk. I guess this man was wrong, because she got educated and put him in jail. Just like I am going to teach you to do with anyone that stalks you.

SHEEP SHOULD NEVER GIVE OUT THEIR ADDRESS

I recently got a letter from a very kind lady who was practically begging me to help. She told me that she wanted to educate teenagers about the dangers of putting their personal information in their profiles, websites and giving it out via the net. I asked her why she was so charged up on this.

She told me that a man had gotten a little bit of information about her from the net, had shown up at her home and raped her. I felt terrible for her, and so I am going to ask you all a question?

IF YOU WERE IN A DANGEROUS NEIGHBORHOOD

WOULD YOU TELL EVERYONE THERE YOUR ADDRESS?

Seriously, think about this. Let's say you drove into a neighborhood where you were terrified to talk to anyone. Would you get out of your car and start handing out your name or phone number? Be honest. Okay, probably not. Why? Because you would be afraid that someone would come to your home to rob, rape or kill you.

The Internet is a mixture of neighborhoods. There are good people and there are bad people. For the most part, the people receiving this are good people (The WE LOVED OLD YELLER CROWD). But, inside this neighborhood of ours are people who would like to break into your home, stalk you and your family (the kids too). People who would rob you, people who would rape you, people who would stalk you and even a few people who would kill you. So why would you put your private information out on the Internet?

Offline, you make a conscious decision about who you give your private information to. Like all of us, you meet people you want to give your number to, you meet people you would rather did not have your number, and there are people you would be afraid to give your phone number to.

I have never ever seen anyone put their telephone number on their front door of their home. I have never seen anyone that would give their phone number and address out to every person that asked. But, I see people giving that information out to complete strangers on the Internet.

ARE YOU TELLING THE WOLVES WHERE YOU LIVE

Wolves are smart creatures. They learn how to take little bits of information, put them together, and to make a conclusion on where the sheep will be sleeping at night. Maybe it's the color of the dirt on the sheep's backside, maybe it's the smell of a particular plant on the sheep's fur, or even just following the sheep's paw prints. But the truth is, that it's easy to find sheep when they are sleeping.

So what about you? If you are a sheep, is there a wolf that might come looking for you? And if so, have you left a trail of foot prints that lead to your home? To your place of refuge and your home?

If you were a sheep, would you tell the wolves where you sleep at night?

ARE YOU DRAWING THE STALKER A MAP

Some people are actually putting their phone numbers in their profiles. The bad news folks, is that there are now software programs where people can put in your telephone number and it will give out your address and actually draws a map to your home. These programs are designed for good intentions, to help people find places, but a stalker can use your phone number to find your home.

But, let's say you are a teenager, and you are playing it smart. You don't give out your phone number, however either in your profile or in email you let it out that your first name is "Ginger," and at some other time you let it be known that you are a cheerleader, and at some other time you let it slip you are going to a game against "Moosehead University"on Friday. The stalker now has enough information to find your home. How?

He knows your name is Ginger, you are a cheerleader for the team that is playing Moosehead University. So, he looks in the newspaper to see what team the University is playing on Friday. He just found out that you go to school at "Hey-U," He goes to the game, sits in the stand on your side of the field, cheers for your team, and asks the other fans if they have seen Ginger. Or he simply goes to the school and purchases a copy of the year book, and looks for cheerleaders named Ginger. From that he gets your last name. He looks that up in the phone book. He gets your address, he drives to your home. And you just died.

So, look at your profile, and what you put in your emails, IM's and chats and you may be amazed to realize that you have given the stalker everything they need to show up at your home.

In one recent news article they talked about a man that had fallen in love with a woman from the Internet. He went across country and showed up on her doorstep. She asked him to leave. He went out and got a chain saw. And used the chain saw to show how much he loved her by cutting his own throat with the chain saw.

Is leaving a trail of footprints on the web dangerous?

Be careful..........

NEVER SHOW FEAR TO A WOLF

Wolves thrive on fear. Never let the wolves see you are afraid or they will attack. Often the simplest way to get rid of a wolf is to be a boring victim. Wolves often start the hunt by charging at the sheep and getting them to run. Wolves and other animals that hunt almost always attack from behind. They fear getting bitten, which could render them helpless to hunt for food in the future. And so they try to get the sheep to run, and then they attack from the back side.

There are several ways to successfully deal with a wolf. One is to get a whole bunch of sheep together, give them sharp teeth and have them chase the wolf. Another way is for the wolf to realize that the sheep is not going to run. The sheep either faces the wolf down (better be a big sheep to do this) or for the sheep to simply be boring. In other words, the sheep just stands there wearing dark sunglasses, and becomes transparent. The wolf knows the sheep is there, but the wolf cannot see fear in the sheep's eyes. The wolf cannot find a way to attack a transparent sheep and so after the amusement of seeing a sheep in sunglasses gets bored and leaves.

Me, I opt for a combination of all these strategies. We are networking people together to hunt the wolves. We are educating every person on the net on how to put the wolves in jail. At the same time, we are teaching the victims how to identify wolves and become transparent to them. The stalker knows the victim is there, but we teach the victim to never show any fear, to never show any reaction including anger. We teach them to NEVER THREATEN THE STALKER because that simply clues the stalker in on your plan of attack. Instead to deal with stalkers we are going with boring the stalkers by never acknowledging them, never telling them our plans, never showing any reaction, while at the same time teaching people how to put them in jail.

The first hint that you are reacting to the stalker should be when the police show up at the stalkers door. And when they are arrested, do not negotiate with the stalker or give them a second chance. There is only one legal way to stop stalkers. Put them in jail and keep them there.

(PLEASE GO TO PART 2) HOW TO PUT A STALKER IN JAIL

Last updated 12-14-99