Dear Friend,
Hello, and welcome to our adoption page.
Our names are Roger and Lorna and we are seeking
to adopt a baby through private (independent) adoption. Maybe you, or someone
you know is contemplating this difficult decision.
We are a happily married, financially secure couple
and we will cherish your baby, provide a nurturing and joyful home, a large
adoring extended family, and a bright future with a good education! We would
appreciate your time and consideration in helping us fulfil our dream of
sharing our lives and giving our love to a very special little person.
We
believe that adoption is very special and that the mother who places her
baby for adoption is very loving and courageous. Your baby will always know
of your loving decision and that you placed your baby for adoption with parents
you selected because of your great love for him or her. We appreciate that
the decision to place a baby for adoption is very difficult not only for
the birthmother, but also the birthfather and their families. Birthparents
place their babies for adoption because they truly love them and want them
to have a better life than they know that they can give at this time. Sometimes
the decision to place a baby for adoption can be easier in a private adoption
setting since it allows the individuals to be in direct contact and establish
their own relationship. Private adoption is legal in most states. We have
been approved by a licensed adoption social worker to be adoptive parents.
We have educated ourselves in adoption and are very committed to helping
the birthmother with her needs. Please feel free to contact us anytime at
our tollfree number - 1-800-664-5660 or E-Mail us at
rogerlorna@aol.com.
Please read on!..........
About
us. We met back in 1989 and married
a little while after. We both came from large families and our dream was
to have a family. We started immediately after we married. We have so much
love to share with a child. Our hearts and arms are open. We are both very
active people. We love music, art, the architecture of older homes and buildings,
and the outdoors. We often walk on wooded paths, go to the beach as well
as vacation in the mountains of NY State and the lake regions of Maine. We
often organize events for our community, and potluck dinners for neighbors.
Lorna was raised in New Jersey about two hours from our home. Her parents
were the children of hardworking Italian Immigrants. Her father was a self
made man and provided a good life for her family. Roger's family were Germans
who came to the United States in the mid- 1880's. He was raised in the area
we live in now. Roger's father is presently retired but he used to own a
successful manufacturing company which he sold.
Roger has an artistic side. He collects music and
art. After college he joined his father's business. After his father sold
the business, Roger opened an antique and art gallery. After he met Lorna,
he decided to join her in her environmental consulting work. Lorna was providing
free-lance consulting to businesses on how to manufacture in a more responsible
manner and comply with environmental regulations. She very much wanted a
family. Having a family and being good mother was her top priority and she
knew that she needed to take a less active role. Roger was fascinated with
the environmental business and felt that what she had started had a lot of
potential so he decided to take over. Roger has really made the business
grow, and hired employees and has made it into a thriving company. We are
very happy with our lives, and the flexibility, as well as the financial
security that owning a business provides.
Before we met and since then, we have both sought
a spiritual life. Our relationship with God is the foundation of our lives.
A strong community is needed to offer support, provide a place where our
spiritual lives can grow and we can be of service to others. We want our
child to experience and have the commitment of this type of community.
Our
Home and our Community: We live in a wonderful
part of Pennsylvania in a closeknit community. It is located outside of a
very cultural and interesting city. The city and its surrounding area are
very laid back, with rolling hills, lots of big trees and older towns and
homes. We live in one of the older communities, in an historic area with
lots of churches, sidewalks, and parks. There are lots of families with children.
Everyone knows each other and it is the kind of place where everyone has
front porches, and says hello and chats as you walk down the street. There
are both young and old and a real mix of different types of people. Our neighbors
leave their bikes and strollers out and don't worry about them. On a spring,
summer or fall evening, the children are all out playing. The church bells
chime through the neighborhood every evening. And our school system is very
highly rated.
We purchased a home in this community because it
was our ideal for raising a family. We wanted a place where a child was not
totally dependent on its parents to drive him or her places; Where there
were neighbors who look out for each other. A place where we could walk to
and shop in stores where they knew you. We wanted to be in a place where
it was easy to be near institutions of culture, learning, the arts, theater
and music, so we could easily offer a child all life's potential.
Our home was built in 1903 and most of the original
architecture remains. There is lots of natural warm wood, moldings and beams.
Our house has 5 bedrooms including a third floor. There are 3 fireplaces
and lots of window seats, and a large front porch. We have a great, fenced-in
backyard. It all adds up to a wonderful home for a child and lots of nooks
and crannies to explore.
Our Families
Roger: I am one of six children. Most of my
brothers and sisters have children so I have 10 nieces and nephews. My mother
is one of seven, so I have a lot of aunts, uncles and cousins. My family
mainly lives in our area so there is a lot of family togetherness and connection
of lives. My mother and father get us altogether for Christmas and special
events (which given the size of my family, is quite a feat). My mother planned
a big family gathering for one week on a lake in NY state last summer. A
few years ago it was a weekend in Maryland for my father's birthday.
Lorna: I have 2 sisters. One of them has two
little boys. My mother, as well as my sisters, live in New Jersey and my
mother often comes to visit and stays, as well as my sister, husband and
their children. I also have lots of uncles, aunts and cousins. They often
get together for special family gatherings during Holidays like Christmas,
Easter, birthdays, anniversaries, christening, graduations, and other times.
Us: Our families are very stable. This has
resulted in a very secure family environment. Both of our families know about
our desire to adopt and are eagerly waiting to welcome a new baby to the
clans.
Based on our backgrounds, it is no wonder that
we believe very strongly that other than our relationship with our mother
and father, the second most significant relationship is with brothers and
sisters. Long after parents are gone, brothers and sisters are usually there
providing a continuing of the family circle, and nieces and nephews, and
cousins for our children's children. We find it therefore inconceivable that
any child, including one adopted, should be an only child. This is why we
have decided to have a second child come into our life. We are very excited
about providing our future baby with a 5 year old sister who is also anxiously
awaiting a new little baby brother or sister. She is getting all prepared
to be the "big sister".
Parenting
We love being parents and know that we are good
parents. We feel that with the experience we have, we will be even better
parents for our new baby. We have a house full of toys, and our lives are
geared to the patter of little feet. We believe in spending most of our free
time with our child and future child: they are only young once and need their
parents love and attention and help in exploring life. Roger is a very involved
Daddy, and has taught our daughter to tackle slides and jungle gyms. He has
been teaching her the computer. Lorna is always doing art projects and cooking
with her, teaching her about plants and gardening. Our daughter goes in the
mornings to a wonderful preschool, and attends gymnastics and swimming classes.
We believe in giving a child a loving and nurturing environmental with openness
for growth but with structure for security. We believe in concentrating on
building a child's self esteem and being prepared to live life confidently
though positive support and reinforcement. We are very committed to providing
our children a college education.
Although it may be right for some, we personally
do not believe that daycare is right for our child. When the new baby comes
Lorna is planning on being home. As the baby gets older she will work at
home, part-time. Roger is also is going to stay home with the baby sometimes
and has set up his computer to connect with the office staff. We also have
at-home help to free us from some home responsibilities such as errands,
laundry, so we can devote more time to our family and provide loving and
consistent care to the baby when mom and dad need some help.
A home study of the adoptive family is required
by law to ensure that the baby will be with a good family. We have a completed
adoption homestudy by a licensed adoption social worker and we are approved
to be adoptive parents. We have educated ourselves in adoption and are very
committed to helping the birthmother with her needs plus addressing the needs
of an adopted child. We have retained an attorney who will assist us in the
laws as they vary from state to state.
Contact us....... We
appreciate the time you have spent reading about us and considering us. Please
feel free to call us toll -free at 800-664-5660 or e-mail us at
rogerlorna@aol.com. We know
that making a call might be a difficult step. Please be assured that we respect
your wishes for privacy and confidentially and we will be open and empathic
when you call . We look forward to discussing an adoption plan with you.
But whatever your decision, please know that our prayers and thoughts are
with you.
Sincerely,
Roger and
Lorna