"Pregnancy, Hormones, and Marital Bliss"

1) At what point are you in the pregnancy?

1st trimester 33%
2nd trimester 43%
3rd trimester 24%

2) Have pregnancy hormones affected your relationship with your significant other?

It looks like hormones affect the relationship more and more as the pregnancy proceeds! For first-trimester-ers, 43% feel the effects. This increases to 56% by the second trimester. And by the time you reach your final trimester, 80% of you lucky ducks can say that hormones have impacted your relationship.

3) What pregnancy-related situation has caused problems in your relationship? Check all that apply.

Here's what you all fight about from most common to least:

Your pregnancy fears 38%
Financial worries 38%
Your husbands fears 24%
Low Blood sugar (not eating prior to fight) 14%
How you are taking care of yourself 14%
You carrying the baby/him not understanding 10%
OTHER - Irrational mood swings 10%
Your weight gain 5%

Not one person fought over the other person being a bad parent (that's good to hear!). Some other topics for fights included losing ones job and benefits, previous miscarriages, being tired all the time, and general miscommunication issues.

4) How has your relationship changed since your pregnancy started?

In the first trimester, 57% say their relationship has improved and 43% say it's the same. But things look up by the second trimester - 78% claim your relationship is better and only 22% describe it as the same. Uh, oh. The numbers turn around by that final trimester. Only 40% of you say that your relationship is better, while 60% say it's the same. The good news? Not one of you said it is worse.

5) Have you been accused of irrational behavior during this time?

For you beginners, your loved-ones are probably having trouble adjusting because more of you report that you have been accused of irrational behavior...57% say Yes. But by the second trimester, that number drops to 33%, and by the third, goes up slightly to 40%. This could mean that your loved ones are reacting to the fact that the second trimester is usually the easiest on YOU.

6) If applicable, approximately how many weeks were you into the pregnancy when the relationship improved again?

Our respondents all agreed that by the end of the first trimester, relationships improved again. So hang in there, you first-trimester-ers!

Bonus Question: What do you think Lisa Schulman should name her child should it be a girl (i.e. female names)?

Here's a sample --So what do YOU think of these names? Page, Kristianne, Kierra, Megan, Mallory, Allison, Sklar, Hope, Jordan, Monica, Tiffany, Lydia Marie, Morgan, Hailey, Elizabeth, Hannah, Jacqueline, and finally, the winner...Cyberette.

"Sex and pregnancy - The True Story"

1) At what point are you in the pregnancy?

1st trimester 22%
2nd trimester 41%
3rd trimester 37%

2) Are you and your mate content with the amount of sex you are having?

In the first trimester, 55% said that they were content. By the second, that number drops to 45%. And by the third trimester, only 33%.

3) What description below best describes your pregnancy-sex life? Check all that apply.

Note: Totals do not necessarily equal 100% since not everyone answered every question and some checked more than one response.

Of you first trimester-ers, 27% had sex within the past two days. That goes up to 55% in the past two weeks. 9% haven't had sex in a month, and none of you have put it off for more than a month.

By the second trimester, frequency of sex goes up. 70% have had sex in the past two days. And 15% in the past two weeks. No one went longer than that!

By the third trimester, 39% had sex in the past two days. 17% in the past two weeks. 17% in the past month and 17% less frequently than once a month.

As a whole, three times as many women said that sex has decreased over those who have had an increase.

4) Rate the quality of the sex you've have had during this current trimester.

First trimester: 27% said "better". 9% said "worse" and 64% said the "same".
Second trimester: 55% said "better". 25% said "worse" and 20% the "same".
Third trimester: 22% said "better". 39% said "worse" and 39% said the "same".

5) If there has been a change in the amount of sex you've had since getting pregnant, who is mainly responsible for this change?

Most everyone blames themselves for the change in amount of sex. For -trimester-ers, 82% said "myself" while 18% said "Both of us equally". By the second trimester, those who said "myself" equaled 60%, with 20% blaming their partner, and 20% blaming both partners equally. By the third trimester, 67% blamed themselves, and 33% blamed both partners equally.

6) Choose all that apply to your current attitude towards sex.

I feel like having sex more often: 1st trimester - 9% 2nd - 20% 3rd-22%
I feel like having sex less often: 1st trimester - 55% 2nd- 55% 3rd-33%
I am pretty much not interested in sex at all right now: 1st-27% 2nd-10% 3rd-33%
My husband is pretty much not interested in sex right now: 1st-0% 2nd-10% 3rd-6%
My husband is more interested in sex since I've become pregnant: 1st-9% 2nd-40% 3rd-0%

Reasons:
"It's weird to have sex knowing there's a baby in there."
"My size makes it difficult."
"Nausea, bloating..."
"Medical difficulties prevent sex."
"I don't feel good!"
(A positive one!) "I have improved self-image."

LISA'S SUMMARY: So what does this all mean? All those books that promise an increase in sexual appetite are off-base. Most of us have lost interest or seen a decrease in the amount of sex we are having. But this survey does show something rather interesting: there appears to be a resurgence in amount of sex during the second trimester. This goes along with partners being more interested in sex and the pregnant women less so. But by the third trimester, it looks like women are at their most discontent with the amount of sex they are having and they actually become more interested. It's the third trimester partners that are losing interest. Despite the woman's new interest, sexual frequency drops off. It looks to me like no matter what phase of sexual interest the pregnant women is feeling, the more controlling factor is the husband's needs. This is just a little "50's" of us, don't you think?